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Bluffing and bonding...?
Posted: Thu Nov 18, 2010 8:50 am
by JustinKyle
Hi everyone!
I have a quick question...
My IRN jameson is bluffing at the moment, but he is bluffing far more with me than with my partner.
If he has bonded with my partner, will he ever stop bluffing with me?
in other words, is it possible for an IRN to bluff with one person and not the other?
Will he get over it?
Thanks in advance for all your help.
Justin
Re: Bluffing and bonding...?
Posted: Fri Nov 26, 2010 12:18 pm
by JustinKyle
Seriously...20 something views and nobody has any advice?
Re: Bluffing and bonding...?
Posted: Fri Nov 26, 2010 3:54 pm
by ellieelectrons
I can only speak from my experience. Our blue IRN, Janey, is bonded to my husband. I spend more time with her and she is fine with me too. Our lutino IRN, Charlie, is bonded to Janey but he also will come to me and my husband.
What I have found is that birds don't have a blanket relationship with all people. Just like you have a different relationships with different people, it's the same with birds. As you spend more time with your bird, you will work through things with bluffing. Are you sure that it is bluffing?
Also keep in mind that their personalities develop and change as they grow so you can expect some blips in the relationship that will be harder to get through than others.
Best wishes!
Ellie.
Re: Bluffing and bonding...?
Posted: Sat Nov 27, 2010 4:30 am
by JustinKyle
Hi Ellie
Thanks soooo much for your reply, I really appreciated it;-)
What you say makes a lot of sense.
I think it is bluffing as Jameson is only 3 months and a bit old.
Do you have any idea how old they are when it is not bluffing anymore, and it's just the way they are?
How long does bluffing generally last?
Have a super day!
Justin
Re: Bluffing and bonding...?
Posted: Sat Nov 27, 2010 1:58 pm
by Melika
Not every bird will bluff; Hane didn't but Tsume did. It is something confined to their early life and generally passes within a matter of weeks.
Later in their lives we can mistake behaviors for bluffing. For instance, recently Hane has been lunging and biting when I reached in to take him from the cage. Being a massage therapist, I cannot have open wounds on my hands. I realized (realization took a while) that he was biting because he thought I was going to take my hand away- which I would do if he lunged. So I resolved the issue by moving my hand in quickly and he was stepping up before he realized it. He reached to bite but then you could see him pause, "Oh... I'm already on her hand. I don't have to try to pull it closer."
These birds can live up to thirty years and your relationship will be ever evolving, just as with people. We have to keep in mind that IRNs are not simple creatures and have attitudes and feelings more complex than a dog or a cat. The way they share these attitudes and feelings is not in our language and we often have trouble understanding them. Therefore living with them can be frustrating, perplexing, and wonderful.
Re: Bluffing and bonding...?
Posted: Sat Nov 27, 2010 10:38 pm
by ellieelectrons
Melika wrote:These birds can live up to thirty years and your relationship will be ever evolving, just as with people. We have to keep in mind that IRNs are not simple creatures and have attitudes and feelings more complex than a dog or a cat. The way they share these attitudes and feelings is not in our language and we often have trouble understanding them. Therefore living with them can be frustrating, perplexing, and wonderful.
Nicely put Melika!
Ellie.