My Female "hates" my male

[Makailaann]

I have a 6 yr old male IRN and a 1 yr old female IRN. From what I've learned she is showing mating behavior towards me any time I come within sight. Any time my male tries to get close to her she attacks him!! I don't care if they actually breed or not I would just be happy if she quit attacking him every chance she gets. How do I get her to turn her affection towards my male IRN instead of me?

[ellieelectrons]

Can you get someone else in your household to look after her for a bit so that she can turn to the male bird? Also, at 1 year old she isn't sexually mature yet, so there is still time for her to change her mind. In the meantime, you have to make sure your male doesn't get too scared to ever approach her again. What's their story? How long have you had each of them? Are they cohabitating now? There are no guarantees that they will bond to each other... so fingers crossed that they do.

Good luck and best wishes.

Ellie.

[Makailaann]

My kids are actually afraid of her & she lunges & bites my husband every chance she gets! I am slowly getting her to go to other people but it's taking time. She is better than she was even a few months ago so we are moving in the right direction. My male, Mikey, keeps on going back again and again. He really wants to get along with her but ofcourse with her being the female she wants to set the pace. I have had Mikey for 2 years now and he is 5-6 yrs old. He was very timid and used to just sitting in his cage all day when we got him. Now he shouts out "Hello! Hello Mikey!" as soon as we get home and flies around the house or runs along behind us chatting away. He is attached to my husband for sure! And he talks constantly!! Sunny, my female is one year and he have had her since August. She was bluffing when we got her (I have the scars to prove it too from her bites!). Thankfully she is over that now!! They get along well as long as one is in the cage and the other comes over to "visit". Mikey keeps going back over and over, he really wants to be friends with her. I guess it will just take some more time. Things are definately better than they were though. And no they are not cohabitating but their cages are right side-by-side.

[ellieelectrons]

Glad to hear it is improving... If she also lunges at other members of the family (as well as your male bird) that it does appear that she is bonded to you and I think the only way to try to rectify that is to have someone else work with her for a while... although it sounds like no one would be willing to? Might be worth a chat with an avian vet if you have one? Although if as you say, she is improving, then providing it continues to improve, it may be ok in the long run. Given that she is only one year old, if you can find a good professional, it could set you up well for the rest of her life?

Ellie.

[Makailaann]

Thanks for the suggestions! I think I'll give it a couple more weeks and see where we are at then. My husband is trying to work with her and once I get her out of her cage she is not as aggressive towards him.